Who pays on the first date? New survey shows Indian women prefer going Dutch

Updated: November 13, 2025 03:47

Image Source: Hindustan Times

A new survey by Aisle Network finds 53% of Indian women prefer splitting the bill on the first date, signaling a shift toward equality and independence. Meanwhile, a significant share of men still favor paying. The study also highlights urban singles’ tilt toward serious relationships rather than casual dating in 2025.

Indian dating norms shift toward equality and clarity

A fresh snapshot of urban dating shows Indian women increasingly comfortable with bill-splitting on first dates, reframing the moment from a test of chivalry to a gesture of mutual respect. The Aisle Network survey underscores changing expectations around money, intent, and independence among city singles in 2025.

Key highlights from the survey

Women prefer going Dutch:

53% of Indian women say they’d rather split the bill on the first date, casting it as a symbol of independence and equality.

Men’s preferences remain mixed:

42% of men still believe they should pay, tying the act to interest and responsibility; many also report openness to splitting depending on context.

Bill-splitting gains broader support:

Overall, 42.8% of respondents favor equal splits on first dates, indicating the norm is moving away from single-sided payment expectations.

Serious relationships over casual flings:

Urban Indian singles are leaning more toward long-term commitments in 2025, reflecting maturing priorities and clearer communication around intent.

Signals beyond the bill:

Respondents view payment choice as a proxy for values—autonomy, mutual respect, and transparency—rather than a rigid rule.

What this means for first-date dynamics

Etiquette is evolving:

The conversation is shifting from “who should pay” to “what feels fair,” encouraging pre-date clarity and post-date reciprocity.

Expectations are contextual:

Place, plan, and who initiated the date matter; many singles prefer agreeing to split by default and adapting if comfort levels differ.

Equality as a starting point:

Going Dutch is becoming a neutral baseline—making room for generosity without implying obligation or power imbalance.

Practical takeaway:

Propose splitting upfront, offer to cover if you initiated, and accept the other person’s preference graciously. The real green flag is alignment, not the receipt.

The survey captures a broader cultural turn in urban India: dating anchored in autonomy, mutuality, and intent—where payment becomes a conversation, not a test.

Sources: Hindustan Times, NDTV

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